Goodbyes are never painful unless you're never going to say hello again...
Adios, au revoir, sayonaara they all mean the same thing... These are words used to say goodbye in different languages.. Meeting new people and making new friends is not difficult.. The most difficult part is saying goodbye.. I personally being a fan of "happy endings" be it life or movies, hate goodbyes. I also feel people shouldn't come into your life when they are not meant to stay...
It's always difficult saying goodbye.. Be it on a happy note or a sad note.. Some goodbyes are special while some break our heart.. At times we don't even get an opportunity to say our goodbyes properly and sometimes we don't exactly say goodbye but we know this is it.. Its goodbye after all...
I caught myself wondering which one is the worse.. The good notes good bye.. The sad notes good bye or no chance to say good byes at all..
First question first, why do we hate goodbyes? We hate them cause somewhere deep down we know this might be the last time we are seeing that person/ place... Although we say we would be in touch, call each other, text each other..things get difficult at times and eventually we do loose touch with certain people... the person you once knew in and out becomes a stranger with whom you end up having lot of memories.. It's not the people who are to be blamed, it's just the circumstances..You can't control them..
The saddest goodbyes would be the ones where you never got a chance to say goodbye.. I'm sure a lot of people would like to rewind their lives go back and change their goodbyes or would like to have another chance to say goodbye...
Sometimes people come into your life.. They'll make you believe.. Give you loads of hope.. Make you laugh till your stomach hurts.. This neednot someone you love.. This happens with friends as well.. But after some point you know you just have to let them go... They are here to teach you a lesson.. The lesson being "Not everyone is meant to stay..." These goodbyes suck cause you feel the urge to hold on when you are supposed to let go... You really need to say goodbye once and for all.. If you are ever stuck at this point please free them say goodbye and let them go. Not for the other person, but for you to get closure.. Just let go.. Holding on is not going to help.. Holding on will only make the wounds deeper. Thank all those who walk away from you cause when they do they are making room for people who won't...
So let's come to the sweeter goodbyes.. These goodbyes happen when you know someone is going for a long period of time.. You are full of emotions that they're leaving cause you know you are going to miss them a lot and you might not see them or meet them that often. .. Even though you never got to meet very often you knew this person was there.. There to catch you if you ever slip.. It still sucks after all it's a goodbye.. But instead of being sad i think we should be glad for all the memories and the good times with the person instead of thinking about the dukhi times.. It's something unpredictable but in the end it's right.. And yes people do stay in touch even after moving to different countries.. I'm not painting a rosy picture.. Personal experience.. I have this friend who's recently moved to Dubai.. But i still don't feel a thing has changed.. He still texts me everyday the way he used to when he was in Mumbai.. Scolds me when i don't take care of myself.. Calls me when I'm upset.. Makes me laugh ofcourse.. Yes we don't get to meet each other but it's still the same.. The friendship the bond has not gone for a toss and touchwood for that.. I don't get to thank him often.. But today I'd like to tell you.. Thanks a lot for all the efforts and for being there.. :) So this made me realise not all goodbyes literally mean good bye.. It's more of a see ya kind of thing..
So sometimes goodbyes aren't forever after all.. It means the bond is going to grow stronger than it was before... Sometimes it means I'll meet you after a short hiatus... On this note let me say goodbye to one of my sweetest friends.. All the very best Bhindi...I'm gonna miss you but i know things won't change cause I've seen friendships growing stronger even after goodbyes.. You better stay in touch or else I'll come there to kick your ass... :) :) :)
It's always difficult saying goodbye.. Be it on a happy note or a sad note.. Some goodbyes are special while some break our heart.. At times we don't even get an opportunity to say our goodbyes properly and sometimes we don't exactly say goodbye but we know this is it.. Its goodbye after all...
I caught myself wondering which one is the worse.. The good notes good bye.. The sad notes good bye or no chance to say good byes at all..
First question first, why do we hate goodbyes? We hate them cause somewhere deep down we know this might be the last time we are seeing that person/ place... Although we say we would be in touch, call each other, text each other..things get difficult at times and eventually we do loose touch with certain people... the person you once knew in and out becomes a stranger with whom you end up having lot of memories.. It's not the people who are to be blamed, it's just the circumstances..You can't control them..
The saddest goodbyes would be the ones where you never got a chance to say goodbye.. I'm sure a lot of people would like to rewind their lives go back and change their goodbyes or would like to have another chance to say goodbye...
Sometimes people come into your life.. They'll make you believe.. Give you loads of hope.. Make you laugh till your stomach hurts.. This neednot someone you love.. This happens with friends as well.. But after some point you know you just have to let them go... They are here to teach you a lesson.. The lesson being "Not everyone is meant to stay..." These goodbyes suck cause you feel the urge to hold on when you are supposed to let go... You really need to say goodbye once and for all.. If you are ever stuck at this point please free them say goodbye and let them go. Not for the other person, but for you to get closure.. Just let go.. Holding on is not going to help.. Holding on will only make the wounds deeper. Thank all those who walk away from you cause when they do they are making room for people who won't...
So let's come to the sweeter goodbyes.. These goodbyes happen when you know someone is going for a long period of time.. You are full of emotions that they're leaving cause you know you are going to miss them a lot and you might not see them or meet them that often. .. Even though you never got to meet very often you knew this person was there.. There to catch you if you ever slip.. It still sucks after all it's a goodbye.. But instead of being sad i think we should be glad for all the memories and the good times with the person instead of thinking about the dukhi times.. It's something unpredictable but in the end it's right.. And yes people do stay in touch even after moving to different countries.. I'm not painting a rosy picture.. Personal experience.. I have this friend who's recently moved to Dubai.. But i still don't feel a thing has changed.. He still texts me everyday the way he used to when he was in Mumbai.. Scolds me when i don't take care of myself.. Calls me when I'm upset.. Makes me laugh ofcourse.. Yes we don't get to meet each other but it's still the same.. The friendship the bond has not gone for a toss and touchwood for that.. I don't get to thank him often.. But today I'd like to tell you.. Thanks a lot for all the efforts and for being there.. :) So this made me realise not all goodbyes literally mean good bye.. It's more of a see ya kind of thing..
So sometimes goodbyes aren't forever after all.. It means the bond is going to grow stronger than it was before... Sometimes it means I'll meet you after a short hiatus... On this note let me say goodbye to one of my sweetest friends.. All the very best Bhindi...I'm gonna miss you but i know things won't change cause I've seen friendships growing stronger even after goodbyes.. You better stay in touch or else I'll come there to kick your ass... :) :) :)
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